John Curran:

Hi Stephen,

This is very powerful information about going the extra mile. The times in my life when I’ve been the most successful have been when I’ve applied this principle. When “you overdeliver and under promise”, you tip the scale in your favor, especially when you ask, “how may I serve”! Napolean Hill’s information is solid, and based on many years of research studying highly successful people. It’s time for me to read it again ,to allow his wisdom to soak in at a deeper level. Thanks for bringing these words to me!

John Curran, Certified Master Coach
http://www.CoachCurran.com

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katerina:

hi stephen
your talking is very important for me as at this period i am looking for work and i have some free time. you are opening our eyes and mind.
thanks.
i always try to compare myself with someone and do better and better.
i think that i have reached the level that what i was dreaming is mine and is now a reality.i dont know how but i try to do positive thinking.

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Vince:

Hi Stephen
WOW!! do you deliver. I had never thought of the extra mile as a place before so I think I have another expanded view to consider for it opening up other metaphores and exponential functions here I come. For those readers who didn’t understand my last sentence, go the extra mile. (No I an not crazy, it just appears that way to the uninitiated)

The answers are before everyones eyes they just don’t see them or focus on them. Then it takes a desision on the part of the individual that does see them to get the benefit and that is the true key to it all namely …Make the desision to go the extra mile but make sure the direction of your walking is planned properly as the extra mile could be in the wrong direction if you don’t make the correct choise.

Best wishes to all

Vince
Twitter: vince_mullo

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Diane Robertson:

I have just spent two days running a workshop for long-term unemployed people. It is enlightening to see the absence of the behaviours and attitudes that you describe. The first challenge is actually getting them into programs that can help them. They give wonderfully creative excuses for why they cannot make it, why the will be late, why they need to dash off in the middle of the day, and why they need to leave early. And when they arrive some of them appear to have just come from a funeral. At least smiles are contagious, and when I smile they smile back!

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Samuel Hill:

Stephen,

Thank you again for bring these great insights to us. Keep them coming and have a great week.

Sam
http://www.bestqualitybuy.com

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Stephen J Vincent:

Thanks Stephen for another thought provoking message. I love Napolean Hill’s “Think and Grow Rich” and believe that every school and college should give all their students a copy before they leave to open their minds to the possibilities beyond employee mentality.

Instead of settling for a career of just making someone else rich for a limited reward, they could think about going the extra mile to provide outstanding service to a group of people crying out for help and a solution to their problem and need or rise above the average in corperate life.

Keep up the great work and hope to see you at a seminar again in the near future.

Steve.
Twitter: AFriendYes

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Blaine:

I really enjoy your insight on Napoleon Hill – His book Think and Grow Rich changed my life. I think it was about the 7th time reading it that it all clicked for me. I even wrote a book about how to get the most from Think and Grow Rich.

Keep up the great work,
All the best,
Blaine
http://www.MasteringThinkandGrowRich.com

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Isaac Adewola:

This is a very wonderful mental power that I want to go and apply now as I have taken the first step to go extra mile , I want to go and practice the Q Q M A IN MY FIELD . Thanks and God bless you.

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Francis Peoples:

Hi Stephen,

It really comes back to good old gospel values. ” If your brother asks you to go one mile go 2 (That extra mile) …” We need to give beofre we get, without expectation. Unfortunatley a lot of people in this world do not know how to give.

This is a great principle to live by in all areas of your life – ie. to show charity in any given situation.

Regards,

Francis

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Marie Barrett:

Napoleon Hill certainly hits the nail on the head. Thank you Steven, you always offer a great wakeup call.

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Jimmi:

Hi Stephen,

You dish out some exciting topics today with the aid of Mr. Hill and Mr. Stone, and for that I thank You. I cirtainly enjoy listning to these short but prizeless audios and by that I mean both the audios of Mr. Hill and Mr Stone, but also the audios or Mr. Pierce.

Now let us talk about that extra mile. I sure have a few things to share on that topic.
I do not remember who said this, but a guy once said: “It is never crowded on the last mile!”
I believe that there are quite a few valuable things to drag out of that short and simple fragment of truth.
First of all there is the obvious point; that people who are willing to go that extra mile are the few. – Everyone are willing to look down that road; most people are willing to travle the first mile; some are willing to go further and as the miles pass, the crowd grows thinner and thinner until only a small group of participants are left and they are the successfull ones.
Here is a less obvious point. Everyone are so caught up in competition! We are often competing in our everyday lives with pretty much everyone around us. Competition may be good for something, but I believe that competition can indeed also become a destructive factor.
The point is, that going the extra mile really means competing with yourself ONLY. It does not mean competing with everyone else in that specific area – it simply means running your own race. You have no need to defeat any competition and why??? – Because there is never crowded on the last mile – You only need to make it to the last mile where the competitors will have “defeated” themselves along the way.
Some other guy once said: “Professionals create, amateaurs compete”. – The point being; chose the path of creation rather than the path of competing. Do not try to knock others down in order for you to rise up; simply go that extra mile and be a creator.

Here comes a third quote: “Successfull people do what unsuccessfull people are unwilling to do”.
This is the extra mile in a nutshell. You have got to do what unsuccessfull people are not willing to do. Some people calls these activities “razor edge activities” and they do so because the fine line between success and failure is as sharp as a razors edge. – What we are talking about here can very well be simple tasks or routines that are performed on a consistant basis; they are the things that most people either do not think about doing or simply choose not to do. – These tasks can seem very insignificant, silly, boring, tiresome, exhausting… (and the list goes on) – however these do represent the fine line of acchieval vs unacchieval.

I really want to talk some more about this.
Now when it comes to activities there are really 4 categories that each defines every single one of our activities (and I mean both actual activities and activities that we desire to do at some point in our lives).

First of all we have 2 categories of important activities and 2 categories of unimportant activities.

The first category is important and urgent:
This category involves; crisis, pressuring problems, deadlines, time restricted issues and the like.
For example: Your mother gets terribly ill and needs you to be with her. That is an important and urgent “activity”.
Or: You have a bill to pay within 3 days. That is also important and urgent.
These are the everyday essential things that we should absolutely not postpone nor ignore in our lives.

The second category is important but not urgent:
This category involves: Preparation, prevention, making friends, seeking new opportunities, planning, relaxing, maintaining source of everything (yourself) and the like.
For example: You know that you should proactively improve your physical health to avoid possible future diseases – however noone are forcing you to do that NOW, so it is easy to put on hold.
Or: You know that planning your day for 10 minutes in advance helps you to be more productive and efficient – however noone are making you do that, so it is an easy task to avoid doing.
I will return to this second category after naming the last two categories. Because what You really want to focus on is this one. This category is the extra mile; this is the razor edge activities – so it needs a little more space.

Category three is unimportant but urgent activities:
This category involves: Interuptions, unexpected visitors, (some) mail and e-mails, too many meetings, problems that will occur some time in the future, popular activities, habits like watching tv and playing computer games and the like.
For example: The phone rings and you feel obligated to answer it though it may not be that important at all at that specific time.
Or: You spend 2 hours a day watching shows on the television that you could care less about. But you feel that you need to do that right here and now and every single day.
These are the activities that I would call timestealers. We tend to make them urgent and essential, but we could actually do just fine without them.

The latter one is of course; the unimportant and unurgent activities:
This category involves: triviality, hard labour, some mail and e-mails (also), many phone conversations, pleasant activities and simply wasting time like watching non essental television shows or playing computer games (yet again).
For example: you may pick up the phone and call a friend to just talk with them about “nothing” for several hours – nothing important and nothing urgent; just passing the time right.
Or: maybe you would rather plan to spend time organising your stamp collection then planning on how to improve your business.
Again this kategory is defined by a somewhat waste of time or unbenificial passing of time.

Now let me just tie these things together. I would suggest that you try to place your different activities into these 4 kategories and to put them where they actually belong. Then I would have you identify if you have your priorities straight.
If you look at the urgent and unimportant category I am sure that you will find several activities that you treat as- or feel are actually urgent AND IMPORTANT! So you kind of need to realise that you are probably prioritising things in this category way too high in respect to your own personal success, acchieval and development.
If you look at the unurgent and unimportant kategory I am sure that you will find areas that you are also prioritising in an unfavorable way. You probably feel that some of them are more urgent than they really are and/or that some areas are more important than they really are.

Now let me return to the second and most important kategory. The important but unurgent activities. What is the big problem with these activities is comparison to ex. the third category of urgent but unimportant activities???
The problem is that these activities are NOT urgent!!! – And if something is not either urgent or beneficial to you some time in the near future, then that something is easely dismissed and is litterally easely dismissed.
This is the category of activities that will make or break you; but it is UNurgent and easely dismissed because there is no “visible” consequence involved with NOT doing them and that is the problem. The problem is that noone will reward you for doing them and noone will get on your back if you do not do them. However your success relies on you doing them and that is why it is never crowded on that extra mile… because people easely dismiss this category of activity that will take them there.

SO in conclusion to this.
Category one: It is important – keep doing that and employ category two to enjoy proactive solutions to some of these urgencies. High priority.
Category two: It is ESSENTIAL – START doing that, do more of that and/or keep doing that. – TOP priority.
Category three: It is not that important – lower the priority, rit yourself of some of them, spend less time doing them.
Category four: It is not important – lower the priority, rit yourself of some of them, spend less time doing them.

I sure hope that this makes sense and that whoever reads this at least gets an understanding, that the most important things that we can do to improve our lives probably has the lowest priority. Just categorise what you do and how you prioritise and you will most likely find some interesting causes to your problems.

Now I will move on to another area involving that extra mile. What we are really talking about is of course how to progress ourselves to success and to get more out of life. So what I have draged out of this talkback and the words of Mr. Hill is actually a message on how to get what we want. And the interesting thing is, that Mr. Hill’s explaination on how to GET success has nothing to do with “taking”.
He said that in order to become successfull you must:

Provide quality service.
Provide a great quantity of service.
Have a great and positive mental attitude when doing business.

He is talking about how to GET what you want; but these points are all about giving something.

I honestly believe that a very great number of people feel that they need to TAKE in order to GET in life.
A person who wants money could easely go to the bank and try to TAKE the money by stealing it. – But is that really the best way to get the money?

I believe that you can never really get what you want by taking it. If there is something you want, then you have to provide it in order for it to return to you… Think about these examples:

Can you have become true friends with someone without being friendly to them?
Can you recieve true love from someone without giving love to them also?
Can you get a stranger to smile at you without smiling at them?
Can you expect people to respect you if you do not respect them?

One of the things that I have learned is; that if I am the source of what I want to have, then that something comes easier to me. When I am friendly and smiling and joyful I actually get more of that same attitude from others. But when I am angry, frowning and irritated, then I get more of that same attitude from others.
I get a lot of love from my family and I get that because I give them my love. Many people will say that family always love eachother but that is not true. – Family often accepts or tollerate eachother and indeed the love in a family can disappear. I believe that relationships and family falls appart simply because each individual member awaits love and recognition from the others without giving any of that him- or herself.
The point is, that I am at a point where I cannot see how on earth anyone can expect to recieve anything that they are not giving away themselves. – You only get love when you give love. You only get good friends if you are friendly. You get smiles when you smile. You get ___________ when you give __________! Period.
And by this I have reached kind of a far out conclusion. It is not a secret that I want to grow my financial status – I want some more money basically. So my conclusion is, that I should start giving some money away on a frequent basis.
Now honestly; that does not make a whole lot of sense does it? – I give away money so that I can have more money!
However I follow the same logic that concludes that I cannot get love without giving love. I want a more abundant life (not to be confused with being having a lot of money) – so I try to share some abundance and make others feel more abundant.
I have simply started giving what I want to get. I have tried getting what I wanted by taking it and that failed, so now I am trying something different.

And I think that I may be on to something; because like I said – Mr. Hill is talking about how to give in his talk about how to get. And personally I have been spending some time now employing that principle to the best of my ability and I feel that it does indeed benefit me.
A good example is the work that I do. I actually make more money than my collegues because I go that extra mile at work. There are tasks at work that has never been performed by anyone else but me and I have recieved recognition for that. So I am actually very secure, trusted and quite well paid in the work that I do. I enjoy a lot of freedom at work and everyone knows that they can count on me every day and surely I benefit tremendously from that.
This is just a small example, but I do make a significant amount of additional money and enjoy a significant amount of freedom from that extra mile. – So I have seen this principle actually work and hence my reason to progress in the area of giving more of myself and my money to the world around me. And the people around me that I observe are unwilling to make the same kind of effort are actually pretty low performers who are often sick and complaining about things. They are the ones who are focused only on getting and that is why they are really not getting anything. So I feel quite happy about the fact that I get it. Get it?

So the question is; are you going about your “having” with a “get” attitude??? How is that working for ya?

Kind regards

Jimmi

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Paola:

THANK YOU FOR SUCH A POWERFUL MESSAGE!!

QQMA and going the extra mile made me think of a powerful way to live a life of abundance. The silence point, about keeping quite our deeds is also important. Thank you for reminding it!!

LIFE (GOD) KEEP BLESSING YOU

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rebecca lidberg:

extra mile is like seeding..even in planting.you never plant 1, you plant many to get more,while you are tilling, weeding,feeding watering,waiting for crops.you think about what the crops will bring.no, not what seeds produce vetbles,etc.a framer thinks about what he will buy with his harvest..pay off bills, buy new equipment,his wife new what ever she wants,needs,etc. then when it arrives,he also thinks about how he could make a bigger yield next time.it’s in the journey you grow.result,attitude determine’s next beginning.everything is but a moment,,a doing what ever needs to be done,then a next…even if it’s a setback..always a next…moment..do something…learn to pat your back for what you tried,are doing,not kick for what you thought..thoughts can be dangerous.thoughts stop action..great heroes will always say i never thought,thought about it. i just did it…ride GOD’s highway of life into eternity on wings of angels,if they seem else where,remember the 2 prints,that’s HIM carrying you…

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Jean-Marc Laurillard:

Hello

I beleive i heard about the benefit of sharing before, and it was a long time ago in religion class.
Thanks for sharing
I like the DT Alpha mentoring process
JM

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